Hi, I’m Tom, Not your typical "fly on the wall" photographer.

For couples who want someone brilliant behind the lens and brilliant to have around.

You know how wedding photographers are supposed to be invisible? Yeah, that’s not quite me.

I mean, I won’t be doing the cha cha slide at your reception. But I’m very much part of the day, cracking jokes during portraits so you’re laughing instead of grimacing, helping the morning run smoothly, chatting with your nan between shots, and making sure your guests actually enjoy the group photos instead of quietly dreading them.

The photos look effortless because the experience is effortless. Not because I stood at the back and hoped for the best.

If you’ve always hated being in front of a camera then brilliant. You’re genuinely my favourite kind of couple to work with.

I’ve had grooms tell me within seconds of meeting me that they despise cameras. Brides convinced they’re unphotogenic. I’ve never once proved them right. What I do is get stuck in, read the room, keep things moving, and before anyone’s really noticed the portraits are done and you’re back enjoying your day.

I’m experienced enough to know when to step back and let a moment breathe, and confident enough to round up 150 guests for a group shot without losing a single one to the bar.

Documentary photographer? Sure. But mostly I’m just a big part of the fun. I’m the person your guests will remember. Not just your photos.

by Tom Stenlake

learn more about me

You're Here
Because

“We just want the day to feel natural.”

“We want photos that feel like us.”

“We don’t want to be posed all day.”

“We want to enjoy the day, not feel like we are being photographed all the time.”

If you smiled at any of those, you’re my kind of couple. My job isn’t to direct your day, it’s to make sure you feel present while your memories are beautifully captured.

Real Moments Not
Performances

Your wedding is a story, not a posed checklist. I blend quiet direction with unobtrusive observation so you get genuine laughter, tender looks, spontaneous joy, and the small moments nobody plans for but everyone remembers.

Calm, reassuring presence
Genuine moments over stiff positions
Natural
Emotional
Thoughtful
Efficient family and group shots without losing the vibe
Couple portraits that feel effortless
A gallery you love, not just tolerate

How It Works

Simple and stress free
Say hello: tell me about your day and check whether your date is available
Friendly chat: we jump on a call, no pressure, just real conversation
Book with ease: warm welcome, clear next steps, and total support
Enjoy your day: you focus on your people while I quietly capture what matters

portfolio

Your Wedding Day Captured in Style.

Welcome to a sneak peak of my wedding photography portfolio – a curated collection of moments from recent celebrations of love, laughter, and joy. Have a browse and let these images inspire you for your own unforgettable wedding story.

Tom photographed our wedding on at Dodford Manor, and we can’t thank him enough for making it an incredible experience from the moment he arrived.
The booking process was so easy and he kept us up to date with the process the whole way. He answered all our silly questions on the run up to the day.

He captured everything so perfectly, gave amazing advice on the day and blended in without us knowing he was there!

We had beautiful shots around the venue, sunset, sparklers and even with our dogs! We cant thank you enough Tom!

Jessica + Max

Dodford Manor

We feel so lucky to have had Tom as our wedding photographer. From the second he arrived at the venue, he put us completely at ease with his friendly and relaxed approach, and blended in so naturally while still managing to capture every single important moment.

Megan + Aiden

Kilworth House

Tom photographed our wedding at South Farm in Cambridgeshire.

From the very beginning he made us feel comfortable (I’m usually very awkward in front of a camera), we loved the fact that his photos were more ‘in the moment’ as opposed to more formal and staged, though these ones looked great too!

Tom is easy going which made us feel very relaxed, we had a great laugh taking our ‘something a bit different’ pics with my husband being thrown in the air by his groomsmen!

We would highly recommend Tom to anyone, we can’t thank him enough.

Rach and Jack x

Rachel + Jack

South Farm

"We cannot thank Tom enough for capturing our wedding day so beautifully! From the first moment we met him, he made us feel completely at ease, and his professionalism and attention to detail were second to none. Every special moment, every emotion, and all the little details we might have missed on the day were perfectly captured in the most stunning photos and film. Looking back at them brings all the joy and love of the day rushing back, and we’ll treasure them forever. If you're looking for someone who is not only incredibly talented but also a joy to have around on your wedding day, Tom is the one! Highly recommend!"

Kamilla + Joseph

Dodmoor House

★★★★★

Couple pouring champagne into glass tower outdoors.

"Tom is simply incredible! From the first conversation to the final delivery of our photos, he was an absolute dream to work with. He made us feel so comfortable in front of the camera, and his ability to capture genuine, emotional moments is beyond words. Looking through our wedding photos felt like reliving the day all over again—every laugh, every tear, every little moment we never wanted to forget. If you're looking for a photographer who is talented, professional, and just a lovely person to have around, look no further. Thank you, Tom, for giving us memories that will last a lifetime!"

Jaime + Adam

Bassmead Manor

★★★★★

Bride and groom celebrating with champagne.

Bride shows wedding ring to friends outdoors

We had the pleasure of having Tom photograph our wedding back in Aug 2024. We found Tom on Facebook and he came highly recommended by our venue.

The booking process was so easy and he kept us up to date with the process the whole way. He answered all our silly questions on the run up to the day.

He captured everything so perfectly, gave amazing advice on the day and blended in without us knowing he was there!

We had beautiful shots around the venue, sunset, sparklers and even with our dogs! We cant thank you enough Tom!

Sophie + Chris

Furtho Manor Farm

Bride and groom walking under tree canopy on path.

why choose

Tom Stenlake:
Wedding Photography.

Honestly, most people hate having their photo taken.

Which makes hiring a wedding photographer feel slightly terrifying. You’re not sure if you’ll look natural. You don’t know what to do with your hands. And the thought of someone following you around all day with a camera is, frankly, a bit much.

That’s kind of my wheelhouse.

I’m not the photographer who lurks at the edges hoping something happens. I get involved cracking terrible jokes during portraits, chatting with your great-aunt Maureen, generally making myself useful. The result is photos that actually look like you, because you were actually enjoying yourself.

A few things worth knowing:

No awkward posing. I’ll direct you enough that you don’t look lost, and back off enough that you don’t look stiff.
No brochure-speak editing. Just clean, timeless images that still look good in twenty years.
Whatever the day throws at us — bad weather, low light, a venue with questionable taste in carpet — I’ve been there.
It’s your day, not a template. I work around how you want the day to feel, not the other way round.

If that sounds like the kind of photographer you’ve been looking for, let’s have a chat.